Twist of Fashion!

Of all you see, fashion and ladies is inseparable, and guys just like the other day prefer to be ubersexual laid back person with no much anticipation of being presentable. But guess what, Adam’s clan has turned a new leaf! More importance given on the appearance nowadays because as the saying goes, first impression always counts!

So let me introduce the latest trend and trend-setting clan, where office wear is no more the lame one but added with accessories and more outgoing look. The cardigan; varies from a long sleeve to sleeveless cardigan, it has been the latest additional in the wardrobe. As for me, I am so much into it now, and I see loads of guys have shifted to wear cardigan on top of the formal clothes. This cardigan gives a good blend of new look to the old lame one. It will give a defined body line and looks more professional as well. So start wearing one and feel the difference!

Apparently not being a total gender-bias, so let me also tell you,girls you have to equip the cupboard with cropped jacket. This is one of the latest trends of time, and this varies from informal to formal cropped jacket. With a good choice of cropped jacket, ladies now can be proud of their body-line and more define waist-line. Wanted to feel the eyes to gaze at you with glee? Just get one today!

Be in trend and Keep looking great! Do some justice for fashion!

Out of Ideas!

Nonetheless, I always feel like I am taking my interest of blogging for granted. Yes, I do ignore it for some time, but I always have been thinking about it. It’s not that I am fully ignoring it, but I am out of ideas of what actually to pen-down, since I don’t want my blog to be just another diary-proxy. In the midst of generating my ideas for a good topic, I realized that my canvas is unattended and taken granted for. Hocus-pocus, hope some miracle will happen sooner or later! For now, I am preparing myself to weeks of fun in Singapore. God bless!

Why Lie When You Can’t?

Situation:

Person B walks to Person A and ask for a favour, where Person A has already hand’s full of work pending piled up on his desk. But due to a strong friendship, Person A commits to Person B’s request. There are only two way this situation going to end-up, either Person B gets forsaken by Person A by not turning up or the Person A executes with the request and face the consequences of the work on-hold.

Well rhetorically speaking, why need to lie and commit when you can’t? Why there is a need to please others when you can’t even please yourself? Weird to say, but most of us settles for the second alternative on the above situation. Why such?

Being Malaysian all this while, I realised that most of the time ‘we’ tend to satisfy others rather than our own self. Aftermath of this action will lead to lamenting over the action taken previously. Is it very difficult to be truthful and say ‘no’ when you face this sort of scenario?

Apparently this time I am engrossed to share with all what I learnt from my ex-boss very much relating to this entry’s title. I was shocked when the statement was made but I remember loud and clear, he said “Sanjay, practise saying no by saying yes!” Being a naive guy, I giggled but after some proper explanation and examples given I actually paused, conferring a proper thought about it just to realise that it was a lot easier to practise it that way. By using this method you actually would be able to voice your standings and go-on without any discomfort feelings carried out by any parties before and afterwards.

SAY NO BY SAYING YES??

Many would crack their head on how possible is this? But just carefully examine the example below as given to me back then, sure you will see the difference in the mood change and how people will react to it.

Person A: Buddy, can you please finish up this report for me?
Person B: Yes of course, but not now, let me be done with my readings and i will get back to you.

Can you feel the mood change when you reply this way, rather than the bold NO for a favour? A blunt NO portrays negative vibes but when you say no by saying yes, you give a different perspective to the listener on the other end. Positive vibes created immediately. They would understand that you are willing to help but you are currently loaded with a lot of chores. Often, one will come across such situation, so when you actually face this circumstance, try saying no by saying yes. It is all about giving a positive attitude to your negative counters and in a way with the fine vibes you emanate, people will feel easy to deal with you.

Procrastination never been easy task, but we can simplify the difficulties in it. There are many ways to curb this problem of saying a big NO but try saying yes to say the NO. Eventually you’ll know and feel that its a lot easier to associate with. Try now! Why wait?

For more ways of procrastination and readings regarding this issue; click the following links. Have fun reading and learning! Godspeed!

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Self Growth

Be a Man...Do the Right Thing!!

Rage and Tantrums are not easy to handle!

I have been many times remarked that I supposedly have been doing some other field of studies then the one I actually did. Some of it is like, creative design, mass communication, marketing and the best of all is PSYCHOLOGY! Why it is so is still a big question mark, but probably by years I have learnt loads about human behavioral and how to deal with it. But one thing for sure is that, I should be thanking GOD and those who were directly and indirectly taught me on the lifetime-experience plus the first-hand-savvy on human’s tantrums and how to react to it.

Apparently I am 24 years old in age, but those experiences I went through is too much that I act as if I am in my forties at times. (Recalling a funny statement given by my best friend on the need of changing his birth certificate on the father’s name to be mine) Many times I realize that people having so much hypocrisy to please others. Baffling as it is, but this is the ultimate truth. Everyone nowadays, knows how to play their cards well that it may appear very genuine smile, but behind those smiles lays a big unknown truth. When reading between these lines, some people may wonder on the circumstances they went through being someone who they are not. Why lie to yourself if you don’t like the being? Why you have to wear a fake smile when you are actually grumbling?

Apparently this hypocrisy, leads to grudges being held on and brought forward in accumulation. This will steer to a breakdown. Eventually this all has limit, and one fine day, this chip of your shoulder will be poured out with loads of rage and frustration. Try solving the differences from time to time, and you may see that it’s better to get hurt now than later. Being sincere with what you feel and talk, is important. Of course, at odd times this doesn’t apply much, but still, the sincerity could help from emotional-catastrophic-breakdown!

Being good is okay, but being too good is bad. This is where people start making use of you and taking you granted. Why you need a situation as such that you will end up holding rancor due to some scenario you have to face being ‘very good’ when you are not?! Enigmatic to explain, but this is what happens most of the time.

My advice is to be true to you and whoever you deal with, you can make a difference!

Let go the grudges and fly-free without burdens and all the wreck on your shoulders!

Food for Mind: Russell Peter said in one of his jest with a Chinese Slang, “Be a man…Do the right thing!”

Question Mark??

Often encountered by most of us, we will come to a forked road of making up a right option to take down the road to travel. Given right from education, life, work or even relationship, it’s always choice of your preference comes in hand. But how can you deliberate the correct one so that you don’t regret taking it?

I always find myself at the dilemma of choice needed to be deduced. The phobic of regretting it always taunt me. But deep down inside I know I need to make the choice. Sometimes, one just follow their heart in making the decision and some just settle on the option after weighing all the pros and cons in the alternative given.

I always have been a guy that follows my heart in whatever I do. There is no point of lying to your own self so I chose to do my own verdict and prepare myself to face the consequences of the path taken. Apparently, it has been a smooth sailing to write it down, but to endure it, I had to gain my faith and boost my confidence level.

For some, the choice to be taken is an easy task, but for many it is still a big task that raises so many question marks above their head. For instance, choice of choosing someone in life as the counter-part, easy as it sound, but when you really think about it, there is a lot of opportunity risk that you need to settle down. You can get promises of sky and the moon from alternative A but little you may know that this might be white lies and those in alternative B might be the actual one who doesn’t give you any sort of hope but yet be with you through the thick and thin. This is just a simple example that can make one think but habitually the white lies is taken for granted and to your amaze regrets slides in later!

Whatever it may take, you always have to pause a little longer, think and find the best solution out of the answers in front of you. And always, there is never been an easy way out cause it probably gives you myriads of unwanted incidents. Always know what your heart says. My advice put your heart and mind to work simultaneously and you will be amazed that the path taken is a rough one but not a lament one.

Choice is yours so don’t make something that will make you regret later!

Even currently, I am still thinking on something that I need to decide. Choices are there but liability is holding me back! Why I have to endure this? Big question mark still can’t be erased, and I am still living with it! I will prevail and triumph, and my confidence is my biggest strength so far! Godspeed!

Random Entry!

Why every time I am losing interest in one thing I love to do? Why is there a condition of losing interest when you actually started from your passion? Have you ever encountered such scenario in your life? I am sure everyone does endure this at one point of life!

Apparently, this circumstance only happens when you expect too much and you place your milestone far-fetched. ‘WH-question’ needed to be complied here. Why put such a milestone? Who asked you to put such expectation? Where you stand now to put the target as desired? Which is the driving force for such goal?

I am lost of word every time I am questioned on the goal-setting I do. And each time I will gaze back and just nod to acknowledge that I am guilty as charged. Even though I have tried hard, seems like I am failing. But now I know, why need I try hard? The ultimate truth is, ‘don’t try hard, cause if you try hard you actually lying yourself’.

Regardless of anything you do, right from work, hobby, food, and places of interest, if you do out of your own passion and your own pace, you will eventually will go beyond your goals and be someone that is happy with the achievement and not someone who regrets the path taken to be up on the spot. Inscrutable but yet this is the truth. Always put some love with the effort, and you will go places and heights.

Every tom and dick, does take wrong turnings in life, but remember, even with the diverted route taken, you still can manoeuvre your way back to the actual target. I have taken a diverted road now, and I am lucky with the correct ‘signboards’ in my life, I will soon be back on track.
So start re-planning, because you ain’t had much time! Just a random entry with weird genre of understanding!

This should not be our to-do-list! Spice up it more!

And the Award Goes To....

What a day to start? Started with a little offset with the alarm, made me to arrive a litter later at work. But it went on well till the moment I paused and thought during the cam-whoring session we carried out. This is the last day for the bunch of wackiness and fun! Hard to see them leaving since they have been with my department for 8 months. But it’s time for us, from PQA to bid them farewell.

So here we go a little tribute to them who have been most influential in my career life since the day one they stepped to SONY!

My all-time-trainee-best-buddy, Zati Hanani! Movie-buddy, makan-buddy and a true friend!

Gossip centre, Syaza! Glass-inspector and Complaint box!

And my favourite work mate when I was working in night shift! Very helpful and bubbly Nadiah!



So long for now, but our friendship will remain. I am not sure about others, but I am sure I will miss you three the most!

regards

Typical Parents!

Sad case...I went through this scenario as well! But thank to my mum, I am who I am now, for what she did once upon a time!

Love you Mum!

Love you Dad!

Will it Be?

It’s just another day at my toil station and I am thinking and wandering myriad things happening around me. So many questions and probability given by myself to me and seem like this is keep on going endlessly. I have observed many moments gazing at people and how they react to each other.

The comfort feeling is no more, and all I know is that life has been routine and all I need to do is keep a strict record of following it. Either you like it or not, it’s a must to just pursue what you have been doing. I was attracted in my previous talk that I attended that in order for one to enjoy doing what they are doing, they need more driving force comparing to resistance force. But what is the real case scenario? Confidently I would say, at least three out of ten is having more resisting force.

But why this is happening? Is it a norm scenario when actually a transition happens?

Phase change is indeed a sure thing, but adaption takes time. But how long would it take? For me it seems like to be forever! It was just like yesterday I stepped out of my alma-mater, now it’s been a year and half since my lecture days. I have been squeezing my heads off working and in no time now I am going back in juggling the life as a student and employee. What’s in my mind now is the completion of my Master in Manufacturing Systems with very good grades. I don’t have a vivid plan, but I know I will prevail.



All I wanted to do now is take a real good time off, and reminisce on all I have done and come back as a fresh person, but it’s not something possible for what I am facing right now. Getaway is far-fetched, and seems to be something in la-la land. Anyhow, as my best friend always says, we have to find time not the other way around. Keeping my finger crossed for a better horizon tomorrow. Will it be?

PDA still a Taboo??

It’s actually has been a fun thing for me to see how people react to their loved ones. Without noticing there are a lot of small acts that makes one laugh, angry and even go blunt. Every time I go to public places I never fail to get the aura of PDA from people around. Hugging in public, small peck on the cheek, kiss on the forehead and even holding hands in public while walking.

I was attracted to an incident recently happened when I was out with a bunch of my friends. A couple was there in the bunch of fun people. Making it sweet, they came with themed clothing and they look handsomely adorable. All the while, this both people were like guiding and giving eye contact from time to time to each other. She advices him at odd times and he being very protective towards her is a very normal scenario I enjoyed looking at.

But how many of us are actually comfortable in Public Display of Affection (PDA)?

PDA is a big NO in some people’s dictionary, but what I have observed and what I uphold, controlled PDA in life is essential.

But, why?

Deduced from my own research over the years, this PDA has actually made the bond tighter and this people have been more than ever loving each other. It’s an unspoken oath been taken again and again by two hearts which is trussed with love. Again, this PDA is not only for lovers but whoever you love ranging from family members and even friends.

As for me, I have always given a warm hug to most of my friend and acquaintances when I am actually bidding a farewell. I think this is a way that say, ‘don’t worry, all is well and take care’. All three concerns in just one act of embracing each other to make sure these concerns are transmitted unutterably. For some this might be an act of weirdness, but that’s for lame and vague people. Start appreciating people around you, and give them a hug whenever possible and you can see how a small act of PDA could change someone’s life!

p/s: I hail to UNITEN students, for having the ‘hugging-day’ that everyone goes around hugging each other to spread the love!=) I miss UNITEN campus life though!

Phase Change

After abandoning my blog for more than a month, I feel a sudden guilt that I have betrayed the unspoken promise I made of writing a blog entry at least one a week. But life is such that promises are now meant to be broken, so I am guilty of admitting that I broke the promise.

Out of idea, and out of topic to be spoken. I try my best but overwhelming feelings of tired of work is a big obstacle for me to think. I frown daily after work and all I wanted to do is go back home, take a refreshing bath and crash down on my soft mattress.

Brain has been malfunctioning for many reasons. But what thrills me is getting back to my alma-mater life. Finally, I got through of being a postgraduate student in a government university. Masters in Manufacturing Systems at University Putra Malaysia and to my dismay it starts end of this month.

So from now onwards, I need to train myself to juggle the task of being a good employee and a good student. And as the saying goes, to gain something you have to lose something. I won’t be able to rest properly since I need to study on my leisure time, so not much fun activity and travelling till I am done with my undergraduate studies.

Well hoping to start polishing my brain back from its rusty mode. Must do ‘disk-clean-up’ and some ‘defragmentation’ so that I can start filling in those ‘files’ related to studies! All these days, SONY and its related agenda has been conquering the mind, but now I think it has to settle with UPM stuff as well.

Hope all will be well, and I can succeed with flying colors in both studies and work!

Office Chaos.

Accounted few times in reading I have done this vastly but surely growing topic has been something that I observed for the past one year of me being a career guy. I have worked in few different environments for the past one year and encountered many incidents in this working world.

Let me brief you through with the Office Chaos that I went through.

My first step of career world started in a construction company in quite small town. Biggest problem with the company is the management and how they manage it. Surprising as it is, there is no proper way of management and I was simply multi-tasking the job of a receptionist, accountant and also an engineer. Result is unknown! Why? It's a pandemonium environment! I end up leaving the job and stay at home. (Seems to be being unemployed is less troublesome rather than being in a mayhem environment! .)

After a month of unemployment, I went on with a better engineering job than the first one at one MNC company. Everything is good here in terms of management but what spoils it, is the colleague there! I was like being placed in Mars. Not being discriminative but I was placed among Chinese speaking Chinese. To my dismay I was the one and only non-Chinese around! Result is being unemployed after four days at work, because I was having mental torture of not speaking to anyone around. (Again I feel it's better to stop the mental torture rather than changing into wacko)

Next stop is a total different field of work than my qualification. Provided with my communication skill I bagged the work of being a Lecturer cum Trainer at another MNC company. Giving training on management courses was not an easy task but I enjoyed doing it. But I end up resigning from the job for the top management attitude of not meeting the deadlines properly and being a pain for all the employees! (Long story on the employer, and loads of personal matter involved! Damn he!)

And now currently I am again in a MNC company and I constantly find myself in a dilemma of higher management constantly engaging in power clash! (Almost like Clash of the Titans) Supervisor A gives work to Supervisor B's team and keep on pestering for work to be done, and leaving the Supervisor's A team left without any work. Supervisor B tries to take revenge and bring up the matter and there you go, a grouping unofficially! Team Pro-A and Team Pro-B! Guess that it's a never ending story!

For some it may be very normal and lame scenario day in and day out! But for those who is going to step their foot to working world, Welcome to the Who Will Survive Here reality game show! Hypocrisy is the trick to win the game! Play your cards well and I am sure you will be liked by everyone.

p / s: No particular people is been pin-point but as long as there is office politics there will be bedlam!

~Glee and Bliss~

Looking at all the bedtime stories I have read and even normal novels that I lay my eyes on, it’s a known fact that everything finishes with a happy ending. But is this for real? Is there such happy ending in our current life? Happy-ending seems to be far-fetched when we look back to what is happening around us day in and day out.

Apparently, from what I know contentment is very subjective! There is no exact measurement for joy, but it’s all about how one accepts the bliss that shines upon them. As for me, I think my life is full with glee and I am always delighted with what I have in life! Of course, there will be complaints arise at times, but its matter of getting over with the phase.

At times I do ponder and get myself stuck with all those sad moments that I went through. Those were the days that taught me a lot of impossible to become more possible and I manage to get through all the obstacles with much faith on the Three-Lettered-Guy and personas around me. During my bad times, I am sure that I will get the support that I need from my family and friends. Never once I was left alone in the process of me to be a better man.

I always thank God for giving me such a loving family and also understanding friends. Life itself has been my greatest guru and I always cherish the moments that I go through. We can’t guarantee a smooth sailing in an open sea, but as long as you can, you wish that you have the sufficient strength and also the courage to overcome the impediments ahead.

Probably it’s time for me to thank those wonderful people in my life as I am happy to be with them and I have never failed to make those people comprehend that I appreciate their presence in the part and parcel of my life. Indeed, God do answers to prayers said, and it’s a proven scenario in my life. Love the friends that I have around and also my family who has been my backbone for who I am today.

I am what I am today, is all because of all of you!

Absurd?!

Smooth sailing is what usually a captain of a boat wishes for, but journey made is not easy since there are rough waters to beat down the calm waters! Tidal waves keep on hitting the one lonely boat that sails in the middle of nowhere! The boat lost its balance and everything goes haywire. The captain is held only to his faith to maneuver the boat back to the calmness it was travelling, but since this is not the first tidal wave hits the boat, the captain losses his patience. Patience is virtue but in this case patience has been a big thing to settle down with. What happens next is still a big question mark, but as long as I know, the captain needs to survive. I know he will!

How nice if life is as the picture above? Calm and smooth all the way!

But its only picture perfect!

regards!

Controversial but Comprehendible!

For all I know, I am still skeptical on the matter I wanted to post this time. It may contradict with others. As for me, it is becoming more and more norm scenario and in-thing for current life. With much courage collected, let me bring to you, the topic of this entry.

SEX!

What? Sex? Oh my, we are not allowed to speak this in public? No way I am going to speak about this? Are you nuts?

These are some of the mockery that people use every time the topic is being raised. But why is it so? I am still vague on this. Of all I know, since small I have known the topic sex or even talking about sexual agendas has been a taboo in Malaysia! Lame as it may sound, the more people hide it, the more will be self-revealed!

As we are moving towards the technology era, I think, this isn’t becoming anymore forbidden-state of topic to be discussed. Sexuality is becoming more and more hard stuff to decide for. I have seen many incidents, or come to hear about people having hard time to reveal their self. Let’s not talk about the western culture, but being in Malaysia, I have seen vast incidents related to the topic being discussed here.

Homosexual (this includes gays, lesbians and bisexuals) and Transgender is a daily scene nowadays. Seriously speaking, I have nothing against them and I don’t discriminate people for their choice and preference in life. But for some, this clan has been a disgrace for the society. As far as I know, this people never had harmed anyone in particular. Apparently, due to normal people like us, they had to hide the true identity and live in hypocrisy. My sympathy goes to them who still need to hide in their closet on their sexuality.

The media, especially some movies produced nowadays to bring this back-alley-society to the day light just to show them that its okay to be what they are. For instance, the movie broke back mountain showcases two guys passionately kisses each other had been a controversial movie yet. (I came to know the existence of the movie in one of the publication of The Star two months ago). Besides that, the production of Bollywood and Kollywood has been venturing into bringing this people out of the closets in their recent production of Dostana and also Goa. Salute to those producers who dare enough to produce the life of this people and make us together laugh rather than getting disgusted with it.

When actually Malaysians can be really open towards sexuality and sex related topic? After such a big fuss over sex education at school, apparently it is been getting positive comments on its relatedness to educating people regarding sex. This sex education reminds me of incident back when I was in secondary school, where form three science is the first step of learning on reproductive system. All my male classmates took the initiative of approaching our science teacher, Ms. Salmah to ask question related to sex! Being a mother of 4 sons, she took a deep breath and said its time for her to learn how to adapt to this kind of question and started explaining for each question being asked. Kudos to her, for taking a big leap and come out of her comfort zone and teach us.

Its time for all this to be a normal thing in our daily routine and chores but don’t get the picture wrong. I didn’t mean that this is something that everyone should practice but just give a look on what is actually happening around us. These people who have had sexuality problem needs attention to be given not being peculated about. After all they are also human and they have feelings. Stop discriminating and let’s not cross the borders of their path. As I always say, Love all Serve all!

p/s: Controversial topic as I said, and I speculate there will be a lot of speculation regarding the topic and also the writer itself! As I said, its still a taboo to talk about this and the person who talks about this get labeled! Sigh!