Situation:
Person B walks to Person A and ask for a favour, where Person A has already hand’s full of work pending piled up on his desk. But due to a strong friendship, Person A commits to Person B’s request. There are only two way this situation going to end-up, either Person B gets forsaken by Person A by not turning up or the Person A executes with the request and face the consequences of the work on-hold.
Well rhetorically speaking, why need to lie and commit when you can’t? Why there is a need to please others when you can’t even please yourself? Weird to say, but most of us settles for the second alternative on the above situation. Why such?
Person B walks to Person A and ask for a favour, where Person A has already hand’s full of work pending piled up on his desk. But due to a strong friendship, Person A commits to Person B’s request. There are only two way this situation going to end-up, either Person B gets forsaken by Person A by not turning up or the Person A executes with the request and face the consequences of the work on-hold.
Well rhetorically speaking, why need to lie and commit when you can’t? Why there is a need to please others when you can’t even please yourself? Weird to say, but most of us settles for the second alternative on the above situation. Why such?
Being Malaysian all this while, I realised that most of the time ‘we’ tend to satisfy others rather than our own self. Aftermath of this action will lead to lamenting over the action taken previously. Is it very difficult to be truthful and say ‘no’ when you face this sort of scenario?
Apparently this time I am engrossed to share with all what I learnt from my ex-boss very much relating to this entry’s title. I was shocked when the statement was made but I remember loud and clear, he said “Sanjay, practise saying no by saying yes!” Being a naive guy, I giggled but after some proper explanation and examples given I actually paused, conferring a proper thought about it just to realise that it was a lot easier to practise it that way. By using this method you actually would be able to voice your standings and go-on without any discomfort feelings carried out by any parties before and afterwards.
Apparently this time I am engrossed to share with all what I learnt from my ex-boss very much relating to this entry’s title. I was shocked when the statement was made but I remember loud and clear, he said “Sanjay, practise saying no by saying yes!” Being a naive guy, I giggled but after some proper explanation and examples given I actually paused, conferring a proper thought about it just to realise that it was a lot easier to practise it that way. By using this method you actually would be able to voice your standings and go-on without any discomfort feelings carried out by any parties before and afterwards.
SAY NO BY SAYING YES??
Many would crack their head on how possible is this? But just carefully examine the example below as given to me back then, sure you will see the difference in the mood change and how people will react to it.
Person A: Buddy, can you please finish up this report for me?
Person B: Yes of course, but not now, let me be done with my readings and i will get back to you.
Can you feel the mood change when you reply this way, rather than the bold NO for a favour? A blunt NO portrays negative vibes but when you say no by saying yes, you give a different perspective to the listener on the other end. Positive vibes created immediately. They would understand that you are willing to help but you are currently loaded with a lot of chores. Often, one will come across such situation, so when you actually face this circumstance, try saying no by saying yes. It is all about giving a positive attitude to your negative counters and in a way with the fine vibes you emanate, people will feel easy to deal with you.
Procrastination never been easy task, but we can simplify the difficulties in it. There are many ways to curb this problem of saying a big NO but try saying yes to say the NO. Eventually you’ll know and feel that its a lot easier to associate with. Try now! Why wait?
For more ways of procrastination and readings regarding this issue; click the following links. Have fun reading and learning! Godspeed!
